“Love is not only about feelings. It is a commitment. It is companionship.
Companion is a friend, partner, fellow. It means one who accompanies another. Meaning: love is not selfish. It is always about the other person. Love is beyond what you want. if there’s anything that you would want, it is to serve the other. Lead her/him to the right path. Bring out the best and the good in her/him.
Everytime my friends (or my self) tell me they want to get out of a relationship or any commitment because they are not happy anymore, I tell them three things…
1. Mahal mo ba talaga yan?
2. You don’t just get out of a relationship because you are not happy anymore.
3. You don’t enter a relationship because you just want to be happy.
A relationship is not a spur of the moment result. It is something that actually needs thorough mature thinking and feeling. A relationship will never be perfect because 2 imperfect persons are involved kaya it is normal to have downtime. But it can be directed by the Lord and He can make it great and special with its imperfections.
Happiness and peace are two different things. If you feel unhappy it is okay. But being in an unpeaceful state is different. And more serious. You can be unhappy but at peace. When a problem arises in a relationship, it is very normal to feel sad. If genuine love is present there’s peace and hope that everything will soon be fine despite the sadness. Therefore do not interchange the meaning of the 2 and carelessly decide. But if you are sure you are not at peace…maybe it’s time to rethink and decide.
So if you are committed, reassess (while hoping you are on the right path) not only yourself but your partner as well and the whole relationship. Congrats if that is selfless love. :) Congrats if sometimes you feel sad but you’re at peace and you have actually embraced the fact that sadness comes and getting out is never the option.
Congrats if you are not thinking about yourself but the other. If you are excited every day about what both of you will learn and how you’ll be able to teach him/her something new and good.
Congrats if you lead him/her on the right path and have taught him/her the value of waiting patiently and value of respect.
Congrats if you feel that she/he is the one not because she is pretty or handsome or kind or “masarap kasama” but you just know it.
Congrats if you live a relationship that is never about you.
Congrats if you bring each other closer to the Lord. And honor Him in your relationship.
Congrats if you find your worth and security in the Lord and not demand your partner of it and vice versa.
Congrats if you are mindful of your expectations and are always aware that both of you are sinners thus happily forgiving and helping each other to stand up and redeem himself/herself.
Congrats if you know that you are leading a relationship not free from pain and conflict but continues to put your trust in the Lord and to each other.
Congrats if you are genuinely loving. (refer to 1 Corinthians 13:4-8)
If you are in love, not in relationship but want to pursue, recheck yourself if that feeling is beyond just getting what you want. But purely to love and serve. And you might want to read on the famous 1 Corinthians 13:4-8. This time take it by heart. Each word. And be brutally honest.
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.”
If you are single, have fun! Have fun a and not make fun of other’s relationships! Hahah. You have all the time in the world for yourself, family, and friends. Cherish it. Ready yourself you might want to be the best that you can be when the time comes. If you feel like your heart is broken, pray and ask the Lord for a brand new heart. Only the Lord can fix it and not another relationship. Trust me on this! (Trust the Lord pala!) Do good things for it is said that “a good wife is a reward for a man’s earthly toil…” :)
Whatever our status towards love… I am still leaving you with Song of Solomon’s 5:16
“This is my Beloved! This is my companion…”
Pray and wait happily for your beloved and companion. And be the beloved and companion as commanded to us by the Lord through the Bible.
Love is a beautiful thing. Let’s not distort its real meaning. :)”